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  1. Fiona Call

    This "Reaching Out" is NOT so serious...

    Ally, That is exactly what I do. You are right - for some reason when you tell them that you are going to be OK they seem happy to leave it. Funnily enough, I find that I react completely differently to that question almost solely depending on who asks it. I am thinking about this because I have just come back from a lovely two week holiday to Sri Lanka, and there was one evening where Si and I were having dinner in our guest house and got chatting to a few other people there. I started talking to the bloke sitting on my right, and Si started talking to the people on my left, so we were kind of having two different conversations if you know what I mean. Anyway, both conversations got around to the tsunami and how little seems to have been done to rebuild the areas affected in Sri Lanka, and this led on to both me and Simon separately telling the people we were talking to about how we were in it. I just felt really comfortable with the man I was talking to and so when he asked me what happened to me I told him about losing my leg. He took it totally normally and we just moved on and talked about other things. He then went to bed and I started talking to the people Si was talking to. He had told them by this point about me being injured but not about my leg. I just knew that they would react really badly if I told them what actually happened to it, and so when they asked me whether I would eventually be OK, I just said yes. When I thought about it I thought how funny it was that on exactly the same evening I reacted completely differently to the same question posed by two different people. I suppose you can just immediately get an instinct for how people will react to the truth, and I think I for one tend to tailor my answers according to that. Fiona
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    Liner burn...

    Dear all, I have an iceross dermo liner and my leg is a pin system one. Ever since I got it I have had burning pain in certain areas of my skin whilst wearing the liner. This has now become so bad that I have to take the leg off whenever I am sitting down, and even whilst walking it has started to burn so much that it sometimes makes me cry. I have decided that this can't be right. My leg is largely comfortable apart from this, and it is really restricting my activity levels. As a guideline, the burning sensation only really starts to get unbearable when the skin on my leg is already slightly irritated. At the moment, I have two sore (ie. burning) points on my leg, and they are both in places where the socket is slightly too tight (but not tight enough for me not to need socks, or to cause any other real discomfort). The minute I take the leg off the pain goes away, but that's not the point of the thing, is it?? Has this happened to anyone else with silicone liners, and if so, what did you do to make the pain go away? I would be really grateful for some input on this, as it is driving me mad (and making my cry on the street in front of lots of random people!!) Fiona x
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    I'm Devastated

    Lisa, I can't begin to know how you are feeling, as I have nothing really to blame for what happened to me apart from a couple of tectonic plates somewhere off Indonesia. But I am really sorry that you have to go through this. Are you getting some sort of redress from your company for the accident? If the man who did this to you was doing his job when it happened your company will be liable for his actions and will be obliged to compensate you for his actions. Also, somebody was telling me the other day aboutIndustrial Injuries Disablement Benefit, which you can claim if you have had an accident at work. It sounds like it is a decent amount of money every month and so I would find out about it and maybe try to claim if I were you. I know that money won't ever compensate you for the loss of your leg, but it will make your life easier to live and give you more options than would otherwise be available to you. Take care, Fiona
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    High Heels!!!

    Lisa, Marilyn etc, I know totally where you are coming from with the shoe buying thing Lisa - in my pre leg period I got totally obsessed with shoes. I would go into every shoe shop I could find and just scour the shelves looking for ones that I might be able to wear once I got my leg, and I ended up buying loads of pairs and just wearing the one. It is funny isn't it, that the one thing you can't do anymore becomes the one thing you want to be able to do. Yes Marilyn, diamante is very sparkly and bling. I recently bought some ballet shoes that are pretty sparkly and have been living in them in this hot weather (well, the hot weather we had until the heavens opened yesterday). I am going to buy more of them before I go on holiday on Sunday as I think they do a pretty good job of solving the flip flop problem - they are still fairly summery but they actuallly stay on the fake foot, which is always a bonus! F x
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    Fell From My Wheelchair

    Hi Lisa, I would second what everyone here says - try not to worry about it and just try to develop a method of falling that doesn't hurt your stump if you can. During my 6 months on crutches I fell over loads of times - usually when it had been raining and I was crutching around on slippery marbleish floors - and one really embarrassing time at Stanstead airport when I was on my way back from a weekend in Dublin and my crutch slipped on a stray napkin someone had left in the arrivals hall. Every time I fell I somehow managed to realise it was going to happen - like in slow motion as you say, and my stump used to instinctively shoot up in the air out of harms way. So no harm was ever done. Try not to let it shake you up too much. Take care, Fiona
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    High Heels!!!

    Bearlover, Of course there is more to being a woman than wearing high heels. I am not disputing that. I was just trying to say that for me, wearing high heels was something that I loved to do and it really made me feel back to myself when I could wear them again. I didn't know that you suffered a birth defect and haven't ever been able to wear high heels. I am sorry about that. But I don't think that is any reason to belittle other peoples' desire to wear them. Something that I won't ever do again is wear a short skirt and I am only 29 and had good legs before I lost my right one. But I certainly wouldn't dream of ever belittling my able bodied friends when they turn up to meet me in their skirts and tell me that they are worried about how their legs look etc, no matter how much it grates on me that I can't do the same. What I am trying to say is that I feel you are being quite judgmental of the fact that I, and others here want to have the ability to wear high heels with our prostheses and I think that you should stop being so. Fiona
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    Don't you just hate it when ....

    You manage to pull a muscle in your good leg from totally overambitious walking and so spend the entire weekend not knowing which leg you are limping more on (happened on Saturday)....
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    I'm new

    Hi Jude, I had healing problems too. It took me 6 months to be given a prosthetic leg after my amputation. I spent my time hopping around on crutches, and just generally trying to live as full a life as I could with the limited mobility I had. I manged OK. Went back to work the following month and went out in the evenings and at weekends whenever I could. Just took a lot more taxis than I would otherwise have done. It is incredibly frustrating, I know. But all I can say is in this time you have make sure you do your exercises, and just try to get on with things as normally as you can. The time when you get your leg will come soon enough, and before you know it you will be back to normal. I noticed you have asked about dead skin? I had lots of skin grafts on my leg, and the skin really took a long time to settle down from that. I wouldn't worry too much about it, as once you get your leg and the circulation starts flowing, your skin will get so so much better. x x
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    High Heels!!!

    Bearlover, I beg to differ. I am a woman and want to feel like one. That means wearing high heels. Full stop. Wearing my first pair of high heels after my amputation was one of the biggest and best things about my rehab for me. It was the point when I realised that it would be possible for me to get back to my old self, and look like my old self, even after losing a leg. And I AM now back to my old self, largely helped by the high heels. Fiona
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    Does anyone want to stop smoking?

    Paul, Congratulations! I stopped just after xmas after 11 years of smoking and knowing how difficult it has been for me I can only imagine how hard it must be for you after 40. I have to admit though, I have had a few moments of caving in, always after a couple of glasses of wine. But I think that the important thing is just to wake up the day after you have those caving in days and not then think of yourself of a smoker. I have used the nicotine lozenges and find that they work really well to take the craving for a cigarette away immediately. I reckon I am now just as addicted to those as I am/was to cigarettes but I just keep telling myself that the diffierence with them is that they won't kill me. x x
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    I'm new

    Hi Jude, Welcome. I am 29 and lost my leg last Christmas (2004) in the tsunami. I too used a PAM aid when I started to walk again and liked it. It is a nice feeling to walk again even before it is time to get a prosthetic leg, isn't it? And bizzare you are all talking about water legs today, as I have just spend all day at the limb fitting centre having a fitting and shaping for mine. How strange......or maybe not now it is summer finally!! x x
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    High Heels!!!

    Hi Marcia, I have an elation foot. I am not completely sure exactly how high the heel goes on it as I have never measured it but have never really had any problems with the height of any shoe I put on the foot. Realistically I could never wear really really high heels before and so I am not going to start trying now! The reason I mentioned the three inch thing is because my prosthetist told me that was how high the foot could go when I first got the foot, so don't quote me on the height! x x
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    High Heels!!!

    Hi Lisa, Oh yes yes yes you will wear high heels again. And the feeling when you get that first pair on is fantastic. I have two legs at the moment - the first with a non adjustable ankle but with a foot that is very good for doing exercise and walking long distances. And the second with an adjustable ankle that lets me wear heels up to three inches high, or indeed completely flat shoes, as I wish. This is my every day leg (or will be when I get a socket on it that fits me). And it is great. People also told me that it would be very difficult to walk in high heels when I got them, but I haven't found that at all. If anything, I find it easier to walk in high heels now than I did when I had an ankle as there is more support there for your ankle. Apparently you take the strain at your knee instead of your ankle now but that hasn't bothered me at all. Initially though when you get your first leg you will have to cope with wearing flat shoes. They want to be happy that you can walk well in flat shoes before they are willing to give you a leg with an ajustable ankle. I had to wait about six months after getting my first leg before I was allowed a high heeled leg, but it was well worth it. x x
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    Another Newbie

    Louise, Welcome and good luck with your operation today. Enjoy the morphine (oh how I miss it...) Fiona
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    Sri Lanka

    Thank you everybody, Yes we have been checking the Foreign Office website regularly Muz. Actually, just about a week after we booked our flights the military headquarters in Colombo was bombed by the Tamil tigers and we had serious second thoughts about going. But we won't be going to the North or East while we are there, and from all accounts (I have spoken to a few people who are in Sri Lanka at the moment about it), that is really the only place that is dangerous and which should be avoided. I am insured to the hilt though! Especially after what happened last time I was in that part of the world. I just reckon that it is very unlikely that anything will happen, and that it is times like now that the Sri Lankan economy really needs our money, and so we are going to take the considered risk and hopefully have a lovely holiday while we are at it. x x
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    Sri Lanka

    Dear all, I am going to Sri Lanka on holiday in a week and a half - yipeeee!!! And I was just wondering if anyone has been there? Our plan is to start off on the West Coast just below Colombo on the beach for a couple of days, then to drive down to Yala safari park where they apparently have lots of leopards, then to drive up to the hill country where we are going to stay for a week or so. After that we are going up to the ancient cities to look at some ruins, and finally back to Colombo and the beach to chill out and visit a school and rehab centre run by the Cambodia Trust, which is the charity I am doing my bike ride for. The part that I am the most worried about is our visit to the hill country as apparently there is great walking there and I really want to do some of it, but I think the paths might be very rocky and slippy. I remember when I was in Thailand a couple of years ago pre leg traumas going to some really beautiful waterfalls in Kanchanaburi. They were on seven levels and so there was a fair bit of climbing involved, and the stones and boulders on the way up were really really slippy. I remember thinking at the time that these would be very difficult to get up even just in flip flops. Never mind with a fake leg. I am worried that the walks in Sri Lanka will be similar, but I really don't want to miss out on them. Has anyone been to the Hill Country bit of Sri Lanka? If so, how is the walking? Fiona x
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    Everyones story

    Hi Lisa, I am a right below the knee amputee and am 29, also from England. I was left with a very short stump after my accident which I also had to have lots of skin grafts on, and with a badly broken femur which didn't even start healing for six months after it got broken. All of this meant that I wasn't able to get a prosthetic leg for a good 6-7 months after I had mine amputated. It is now pretty much a year exactly since I got my first leg, and I am totally back up on my feet. It took a bit longer for me to discard the sticks and up my activity level than I think it takes other people who don't spend as long off their leg, but I have done it. I am telling you this because I sense from what you have written that you are worried that you don't have a leg yet and that it might hold you back. But honestly, I want you to know you will be fine. And you will be able to get back up on your feet in time. I have realised over the past year that the trick with this is just to have patience, and to have faith that it will all come, just gradually. Something that has also kept me going over the past year and a half is the knowledge that I, too, am very lucky to have my life, and that there is so much out there to experience and do, and that I will be able to do it all eventually. A year or so of set backs is nothing in comparison to the gift I have been given of the rest of my life. As Jim has said, it sounds like you have a great attitude and that is what will carry you through. Anyway, I have rambled on for long enough, but welcome. Fiona x
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    Very inconsequential

    I have started walking up stairs and curbs foot over foot without really thinking which foot is going first - yipeee!! And today I had to go to a bridesmaids dress fitting for my friend's wedding (at which I am a bridesmaid) and I think I shocked the fitting lady with my leg - it was quite amusing...... And on Friday I had my first journey to work holding a weekend bag which was heavy and which I know I couldn't have carried a couple of months ago. My journey to work involves a ten minute walk to the tube (if you are being quick) then a 20 minute tube journey in circunstances only londoners or anyone who has been on the tube at rush hour can understand (not good) then ten minutes walk when I get off. I know it is only a little thing but I was well chuffed when I got there on Friday. I think things may finally be returning to the way they were (god help the world...) x x x x x p.s. am going to bed now as I am very tipsy indeed after the bridesmaid dress fitting - hat do they mean a size 12????????
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    Very inconsequential

    Good piccie Muz, How long were you in Japan for? I lived there for a year after I finished uni. Bizzare place. But fun. F
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    What do you do when you can't wear your leg?

    Well yes and no. It takes a bit of time to work out what is going on and when you do you kind of don't believe it and then it just carries on in that vein really. It really made me think, and I always think that is a sign of a good book.
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    My new found "Phantom Pains!" LOL

    I was thinking about this just this morning and I don't think I get phantom pains as such (and luckily, no other kind of pain unless the leg is hurting me), but my right leg does somehow feel different to my left leg. Like there is almost a constant sort of tingling there. And, yes, Mel i agree with you, you just have to ignore the feeling because it is just so wierd that if you thought about it all the time I think you would go doolally.
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    Motorcycle riders

    Higgy, You are right about the foot getting stuck thing. I wouldn't want to be going as fast as you do on a motorbike with that happening. I have fallen off my bike a fair few times due to not being able to get my right foot out of the toe clip, but with the speeds I do I have never been even close to hurting myself. Thank the lord. It is all just about weighing up the risks I suppose. Fiona
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    Motorcycle riders

    Hi Higgy, I don't ride motorcycles but I do ride bicycles. I don't know how well the pedal situation translates from bicycle to motorbikes but I have had the same problem with my prosthetic foot on the pedal of my bike. What happened to me was that the toe swung out somehow, meaning that the heel swung in, caught on the crank of my pedal and caused me to fall off. To combat this and to keep my foot on the pedal I use a toe clip on my prosthetic foot when I ride. I have attached a link to a picture of toe clips for sale on ebay below for you. I find that if I really jam the prosthetic foot into the clip before I set off it is absolutely fine, doesn't dislodge, and doesn't swing out. As I said, I don't know if there is any device like this that can be used on motorcycle pedals, but this is what I use on my bike. Fi x http://item.express.ebay.com/Sporting-Good...cmdZExpressItem
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    Third time lucky

    Lynne, I hope I'm not too late - good luck with the operation and I really hope it goes well for you. Best wishes, Fiona
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    Exercise

    Walking (as little as possible), cycling (as much as possible - much easier than walking), and swimming. Am going to start learning how to run on 11 June as well - have a feeling it might be a little bit more difficult than the cycling though.....
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