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  1. I found this info at amputee-online Quite an interesting site, they also have a newswire service that is free but you have to sign up to get at the archives :) Phantom Pain Relief Without Medication (Condensed from The Christian Science Monitor) Listed below are ways that members of Lower Extremity Amputees providing Support (LEAPS) of Kansas have found helpful in relieving phantom pain. These methods don't always work, of course, and what works for one person may not work for another. Remember, check with your doctor if you have any questions before trying these methods. 1. Wrap your stump in a warm, soft fabric, such as a towel. The warmth will sometimes increase circulation. Poor circulation is thought to be one cause of phantom pain. 2. Mentally exercise the limb that is not there in the area that is painful. 3. Mentally relax the missing limb and your stump. 4. Do some mild overall exercise to increase circulation. 5. Exercise the stump. 6. Tighten the muscles in the stump, then release them slowly. 7. Put ace wrap or shrinker sock on. If you have your prosthesis, put it on and take a short walk. 8. If you have pain with the prosthesis on, take it and the prosthetic sock off and put it back on after a few minutes. Sometimes the stump is being pinched and changing the way it is on will relieve the pressure on that nerve. 9. Change positions. If you are sitting, move around in your chair, or stand up to let the blood get down into your stump. 10. Soak in a warm bath or use a shower massage or whirlpool on your stump. A hot tub is reported to do wonders. 11. Massage your stump with your hands or better yet have someone else message it while you try to relax your entire body. 12. Keep a diary of when pain is most severe. This can help you and your doctor identify recurring causes. 13. Wrap stump in a heating pad. Some people have found help through self-hypnosis, biofeedback and chiropractic. If you have not found relief through any home remedies and the pain is not being controlled through normal medication, a pain center should be considered.
  2. A little girl was riding on a train with her mother. Looking out the window, she exclaimed, "Look! A horse!" And a moment later, "Look! Houses!" She gave every indication of keeping this up, so her embarrassed mother apologized to the man next to her. "I'm sorry my daughter is going on like this," she said. "She still thinks everything is wonderful." When do we stop thinking everything is wonderful? When we grow up? Does growing older also mean growing jaded? And must we travel to faraway places to marvel once again? Can't we experience wonder and awe today -- this moment? A fresh orange or buttered toast is no less marvelous today than when you first tasted it. The building you work in may be an architectural miracle the ancients never fathomed. The smell of your summer garden or the sight of this evening's sunset can be no less glorious today than it ever was. Few things are commonplace in themselves -- it's our reaction to them that grows dull over the years. As Einstein observed, those who will pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe will truly live. They will see what others miss. They will feel what others cannot. Life will be for them both exquisite and mysterious when they learn to say, "Awe."
  3. THE DAFFODIL PRINCIPLE Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over.” I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. “I will come next Tuesday,” I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!” My daughter smiled calmly and said, “We drive in this all the time, Mother." "Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her. "I was hoping you’d take me over to the garage to pick up my car just a few blocks away. I’ll drive. I’m used to this.” After several minutes, I had to ask, “Where are we going? This isn’t the way to the garage!” Carolyn ginned, “We’re going to my garage by way of the daffodils.” "Carolyn, please turn around, "I said sternly. "It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience." After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign that read, "DAFFODIL GARDEN". We got out of the car and each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, we turned a corner and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns — great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers. "But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn. "It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline: The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs!” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.” There it was: THE DAFFODIL PRINCIPLE. For me, that moment was a life changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than 35 years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time — often just one baby-step at a time — and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world. “It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal 35 years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!” My daughter summed up the message in her direct way. “Start tomorrow,” she said. It’s pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. To make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret, simply ask, “How can I put this to use today?” ~By Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards Painting With Flowers Inspiration online
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    Nice article

    Good to see Mel getting some exposure for Limbs 4 life Doesn't she answer questions well :)
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    Looks like life is a beach these days huh? :P
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    Best of good luck with your job search, you are bound to see some progress soon ;)
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    You look happy :D Good to hear you are running again ;)
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    What the...

    I hope you get your bike back or that the insurance company comes through and you get a replacement. Having the media on your side will probably help with that, don't forget to mention it to the paper pushers ;) It's not easy taking problems one at a time when they refuse to get in line. ~Ashleigh Brilliant
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    Happy Easter!
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    Brenda, I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. Going to the library is a great place to strike up casual conversations with people, so is the grocery store. You aren't a shy person, so utilize your natural charm and enjoy life :D Guys will be around. Your main concern when you find a fellow is if they can keep up with you. Don't hide, just be your radiant self B)
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    I'm Back

    Good to see you posting again :D Welcome back!
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    NEW DOG !!!!!!!!!!!

    Congratulations :) Wait and see what its personality is before you choose a name. I'm sure it will come to you in a flash once you see what your new puppy likes to do.
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    You can upload an appropriate sized avatar pic from your computer in the "My controls" section of the board, left side menu "edit avatar settings". I usually upload a pic to photobucket.com to get an url that works. You can reduce bigger pics to the avatar size there also. Here is your pic. Just right click on it to copy.
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    Very upset!

    Hang in there :) Maybe find new doctors to put your trust in, this bunch blew it. Use your power and your voice and allow yourself to imagine a future with this situation behind you.
  15. Sometimes it is rather nice to be treated special because one is a bit different than those around them :) Would you have made the same choice? At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?" The audience was stilled by the query. The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people treat that child. "Then he told the following story: Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps. Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play, not expecting much. The boy looked around for guidance and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning." Shay struggled over to the team's bench put on a team shirt with a broad smile and his Father had a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible 'cause Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing the other team putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over, but the pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the head of the first baseman, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever ran that far but made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to second base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team, who had a chance to be the hero for his team for the first time. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions and he too intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay" Shay reached third base, the opposing shortstop ran to help him and turned him in the direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third" As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams and those watching were on their feet were screaming, "Shay, run home! Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the "grand slam" and won the game for his team. That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world. Shay didn't make it to another summer and died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his Father so happy and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
  16. This lady has put together some wonderful quotes and made a statement of life from it, very cool :) Many Voices, One Song “I have a dream...” —Martin Luther King, Jr. “...symbolizing an end as well as a beginning, signifying renewal as well as change.” –John F. Kennedy “We have enough people who tell it like it is— now we could use a few who tell it like it can be.” —Robert Orben [for] “The dreamers are the saviors of the world.” –James Allen [and surely] “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp. Or, what’s a heaven for?” –Robert Browning “If not for you.” –Bob Dylan [The time has come to] “Hold your head high, stick your chest out. You can make it. [Even if] It gets dark sometimes...” –Jesse Jackson [and though] “Morning has been all night coming.” —John Harricharan “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” —Eleanor Roosevelt “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” —Henry Ford [although] “The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.” —Chinese proverb “As an irrigator guides water to his fields, as an archer aims an arrow, as a carpenter carves wood, The wise shape their lives.” –Buddha [choosing] “...to create out of the materials of the human spirit something which did not exist before.” –William Faulkner [and as] “You are the creator and the selector of your thoughts.” –Wayne Dyer [you must] “Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become.” –James Allen “For evermore.” –Edgar Allan Poe “There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.” —Beverly Sills [so as you] “Journey in the fields of forever.” —John Harricharan [be aware that] “The best way out is through.” —Robert Frost “We have to keep transforming ourselves to become who we ought to be.” —Oprah Winfrey [so] “Be here now.” —Ram Dass “Dare yourself to think bigger.” —Mike Dooley [because] “Your thoughts are the architects of your destiny.” —David McKay “Walk closest to those who truly inspire you— it is the more fascinating journey and very, very good for the soul.” —Heather K. O’Hara “Don’t hurry, don’t worry. You’re only here for a short visit; so be sure to stop and smell the flowers.” —Walter Hagan [Remember...] “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” —Anonymous [as will you] “We can be free! We can learn to fly!” —Richard Bach “Live your love, trust your joy— stand up and say your name.” —Heather K. O’Hara “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” —Gandhi Arranged by Heather K. O'Hara
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    New Life

    Keep your forward momentum going ;) Cheers to the new year and a less stressful life :D
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    Hi everyone

    I'm sorry you aren't having an easy time of it. I wish you better days ahead :D
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    New Here.

    Welcome! I wish you well and know that you will find your way through. Lots of good people here, with great advice and knowledge, keep asking questions, it is through knowledge that you will feel stronger.
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    Hello from Catherines Wife

    Welcome to the group! Cat is great and you are so lucky to have her in your life. We all appreciate her humour and knowledge on the forum. I hope you will join in often and enjoy the good company that exists here.
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    Happy Birthday Dea

    I hope you get plenty of hugs and good conversation this birthday :) Fingers crossed that you get a birthday cake that doesn't look anything like a fruitcake this close to Christmas :lol: Glad you are here, have a terrific celebration!
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    Happy Birthday to MJ!!

    Hey Styling gal! I trust you had a blast! All the best for the coming year :) I hope you see lots of rainbows and get back into your creative flow.
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    Happy Birthday Catherine ! ! !

    Many people are grateful you were born! Celebrate! Phooey on the numbers, just proves how lucky those who have gotten to know you have been for those years ;)
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    Proud Mom

    Oh my! How cool is that?! I bet she is ecstatic. You have some time before May rolls around to plot the journey... you have to see your child play Carnegie Hall!