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Gil Davis

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  1. Well, if I must play an instrument, I'll be in the brass section with my trumpet.... however, Gil, you left out my actual primary musical ability:

    Doesn't the "band" need a "girl vocalist??" or maybe a vocal ensemble??

    Well sure, Cheryl.

    I'll let you organize the choir.

  2. In my wanderings around the forum, I've found out by various means that there are quite a few musicians here.

    Who knows? We might have the beginnings of an orchestra.

    I'm excluding myself, since I was a drummer only for a little while as they say "in a galaxy far, far away".

    Give it a try, it should be fun and informative.

    Please list the instrument/s you play. The quiz just establishes where you'll sit.

    :D :D :D :D :D :P :lol: :ph34r:

  3. What character trait do you think is most important?


    Personally, I would consider personal integrity the most important, with patience a close second.

    Can we continue this? Is there another trait that someone feels is more important?

  4. Hi

    I seem to have so much going around in my brain. Those of you who have read previous posts will know I have skin grafts upto my thigh on my stump leg. There is an area on my knee that has never properly healed and obviously the surgeons are doing everything in their power to help me. I had a silicon sock that went upto my high which has become my security blanket as it covers my skin grafts. Where I lost the fat on my leg is barely detectable under my sock as it is like a super duper support tight. Yesterday I had to have this cut down to help the skin breathe which has left my skin grafts on show. I am gutted! I don't think people understand why i feel this way when I wear shorts when I have a prosthetic leg on show with no cosmesis on it. I am very grateful that I have my knee as I have seen how difficult it can be for above knee amputees but I am repulsed by how my leg looks. I have two options, which are to continue to wear the clothes I have been wearing and feel conscious that people are disgusted with what they see or cover up. I know deep down that the problem lies with how I feel about myself rather than what people are actually thinking. I have a really poor body image and this really hasn't helped things. Sometimes I can't believe how many journeys we actually have to go through just to get through the day. If you knew me you probably wouldn't believe that I felt like this, because to the outside world I am this strong confident woman, which I am but sometimes life can be so hard.

    Now I've shed a few tears I will probably be ok tommorrow. Lol



    I, too, thought that I would be totally self conscious - but I am not. My theory is if someone doesn't like the way it looks - thenthey can look the other way. Be proud, hold you head up. You have come through a lot.



    There are a lot of us with grafts/scar tissue. Judy has the right idea, try to think of the skin grafts and scars as a badge of courage. It's probably harder for the ladies, but I did have this image of you as a "strong confident woman".

    I don't know what to say about your "poor body image". You're the only one that can do something about that.

  5. Snowboard (I hope you don't mind me calling you that)

    I think you're right about the differences between upper and lower amps. Let's face it, they make a ton of different devices for leg amps. There are definitely advances in upper limb prosthesis, but they are slow coming and are quite expensive.

    Us leg amps are happy to be able to walk. If we demanded the ability to wiggle our prosthetic toes we would be just out of luck. For upper extremity amps that "wiggle", however achieved, is essential, and it's diffucult to achieve.

    I had a counselor in hospital, a middle-aged asian lady, who showed up in a cape and kept her hands in her pockets. When she finished and told me I was in good enough shape, I insisted on shaking her hand. She didn't hesitate, and extended her hook. Then I discovered that she had lost both hands 20 years ago.

    I believe a lot of the younger members lost limbs in motorcycle/ATV accidents, but that's just an impression.

    Let's see who "pops up". :P

  6. Examples of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) include fluoxetine (Prozac), sertaline (Zoloft), fluvoxamine (Luvox), paroxetine (Paxil), and citalopram (Celexa).

    Examples of serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRI) are venlafaxine (Effexor), and duloxetine (Cymbalta).

    An example of a norepinephrine and dopamine reuptake inhibitor (NDRI) is bupropion (Wellbutrin).

    All of these are good medications. Always watch for side-effects, but there aren't usually many.

    If you're wondering where I get all this Stuff, I have two nephews who are drug-pushers (Pharmacists).

    ;) ;)

  7. Idn't a Fisher something like a Martin?

    Yup, a Fisher is the North American Marten cousin. Since it's American, it has to be bigger so some get to be 20 Kg, while the Marten is usually around 3-4 kg.

    In a silly attempt to re-capture this thread (un cross-thread, as it were) my question is:

    Which do you prefer, cookies or doughnuts?

  8. Eric

    I was surprised to see the progress you had made yesterday when we visited. I see that you are taking charge of your life and treatment. That is a very good thing.

    Everyone will have some advice, take as much as fits your plans and life-syle. It's all meant well.

    Remember, all therapy is or should be designed to make you better. All that BS about "No pain, no gain"

    is just that. When it hurts, stop.

    Your mother is a fine lady, although I will say she seems to "hover" a bit much. I think that's normal for a mom to be. You should be thankful she was able to come down to the "lower 48" and stay with you. You will need that help for a while yet.

    See ya later

  9. Q: Where can women over the age of 50 find young, sexy men who are

    interested in them?

    A: Try a bookstore under fiction. :blink:


    Q: What can a man do while his wife is going through menopause?

    A: Keep busy. If you're handy with tools, you can finish the basement.

    When you are done, you will have a place to live. :ph34r::ph34r:


    Q: How can you increase the heart rate of your 50+ husband?

    A: Tell him you're pregnant. :( :(


    Q: How can you avoid spotting a wrinkle every time you walk by a mirror?

    A: Take off your glasses.


    Q: Why should 50+ folks use valet parking?

    A: Valets don't forget where they park your car.


    Q: Is it common for 50+ folks to have problems with short-term memory


    A: Storing memory is not a problem, retrieving it is a problem.


    Q: As people age, do they sleep more soundly?

    A: Yes, but usually in the afternoon.


    Q: Where do 50+ folks look for fashionable glasses?

    A: Their foreheads.


    Q: What is the most common remark made by 50+ folks when shopping in

    antique stores?

    A: "I remember these."

  10. This is a tough subject. Despite the quote below, taken from the article, I'm not sure how many of the 500 feel "blessed".

    I think we sometimes forget that this is an "all volunteer" military and any of these young people could have "opted-out". At some cost, yes.

    I'm not making any statements about the "rightness" or "wrongness" of the Iraq war, or any war for that matter. I personally abhor war and any kind of physical violence. Having said that, I admit to having employed physical violence to protect myself and those close to me.

    I am aware that many of us on this forum would not have survived 30-40 years ago before EMT's and trained personnel were available.

    "Despite the devastating loss, amputation is actually a blessing for many Ward 57 patients. That's because they wouldn't have survived in past wars without today's body armor to protect vital organs and better-equipped medics to quickly stop hemorrhaging and deliver the wounded to hospitals. The extraordinary rates of survival in this war — 9 of every 10 soldiers wounded make it, compared to 7.5 of 10 in Vietnam — explains the larger number of casualties who survive with severe and lasting disabilities, including loss of limbs. "

    OK, it's your turn.

  11. My oldest son plays the drums......I feel for your family :rolleyes: :lol:

    Hi Mike

    I played the drums a long time ago. I bought my grandson a set a couple of years ago for Christmas.

    His parents still talk to me, so pay little attention to Cat, at least on that score.

    Most people don't realize that the drummer keeps the beat for the group.

    I think you'll like it around here. :blink::blink:

  12. LINCOLN, Neb. - Most days are good, some not for a woman who is recovering from what has been called "internal decapitation."

    Shannon Malloy suffered "atlantooccipital dislocation" — that's what doctors call it. The force of her head hitting a car dashboard separated her skull from her spine.

    Though rare, it's more common in children and is usually found during autopsies.

    Speaking from her mother's home in Denver, Malloy, 30, said she remembers no pain from the crash near Tecumseh in southeast Nebraska on Jan. 25.

    "I remember being slumped over and not being able to respond," she said.

    She was a passenger in the car. She would not provide details of the accident, she said, because she's suing an insurer.

    "Stay alive," Malloy said she told herself while still in the car. "I can't die."

    She said she heard her boyfriend, Graham Neary, say to her: "Please stay with me."

    "Then I don't remember much until the paramedics pulled me out of the car," Malloy said.

    She recalls parts of her next three weeks at a Lincoln hospital, on a ventilator, unable to talk.

    "At some point in the ICU, I remember writing a note (to her mom), asking if I was paralyzed.

    "She said, 'No.'"

    Physical challenges

    Surviving the catastrophic injury has become more common because of faster protection of the airway and better spinal isolation at accident scenes.

    Malloy also suffered a broken pelvis and ankle.

    Yet she remains mostly upbeat.

    "My family keeps joking that I must be brain-damaged because I'm so positive," she said.

    After three weeks in intensive care and two weeks of rehabilitation, she walked out to begin her new life with daunting physical challenges. Her eyes remain crossed, awaiting surgery. She can turn her head only an inch side to side, but the restrictive halo apparatus she was wearing came off April 13.

    She can't swallow yet.

    "My esophagus muscle is so tight that even water won't pass through," she said. "I can't even swallow my own spit."

    No surgeries have been scheduled to address her vision or inability to swallow. Money remains a problem, as has the paperwork required to get help from Medicaid.

    Sometimes, Malloy said, "I feel like I'm on the outside looking in. At other times, I wish I was on the outside looking in."

    "I'm not a religious person, but there's a reason for me to be here," she said. "And I've got to find out what that reason is and fulfill it."

    Found at : http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18841567/?GT1=9951

  13. Freddy

    We are all with you. I may have to have a revision on my stump, for similar reasons. Mine is especially "gnarly" and has been infected several times.

    If you've been "under" several times the chances of a problem are very small. It's usually the FIRST time that's a real problem.

  14. This one is for everyone who...

    a) Had kids

    B) Has kids

    c) Is going to have kids

    d) Knows a kid

    e) Was a kid

    I was packing for my business trip and my three year old daughter was having a wonderful time playing on the bed. At one point she said, "Daddy, look at this," and stuck out two of her fingers.

    Trying to keep her entertained, I reached out and stuck her tiny fingers in my mouth and said, "Daddy's gonna eat your fingers," pretending to eat them.

    I went back to packing, looked up again and my daughter was standing on the bed staring at her fingers with a devastated look on her face.

    I said, "What's wrong, honey?"

    She replied, "What happened to my snot???"

  15. Well, other than the fact that you probably shouldn't wear your prosthesis until the tattoo is fully healed.

    Are you aware that there is some bleeding associated with a tattoo?

    The other thing is that it won't be easy to show your new tattoo without removing your leg.

  16. How do you keep cool in the summer with your prosthetic?


    Here's my recipe for Sweet Potato Puffs :



    • 2 lbs sweet potatoes, cooked -- mashed

    • 1/3 cup orange juice

    • 1 egg -- beaten

    • 1 tablespoon grated orange peel

    • 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg

    • 1/4 cup chopped pecans


    In a bowl, combine mashed sweet potatoes with orange juice, egg, peel, and nutmeg. Mix well. Spray a baking sheet with nonstick cooking spray. Spoon potato mixture onto baking sheet in 8 mounds. Sprinkle the mounds with the chopped pecans. Bake in a 375 degree F. oven for about 30 minutes, or until hot in the center.

    Serves 8.

    I have no idea how Cheryl makes hers.

    I keep cool by wearing shorts (a lot).

    Who's your favorite singer (male or female)?

  17. much appreciation for your welcome. When I get someone to measure me up and put together a socket for me I figure they can give me a peg leg, in fact I think that would be kind of cool :) honestly I just need something so that I can weight bear when I transfer from my bed to my wheelchair. right now Im non weight bearing on all 4 limbs while my hands heal after a couple meta-carpels broke. The sooner I can take care of myself, the sooner I can send my mother home :)

    I think my biggest concern at this point is finding someone who will work with me on a socket. I dropped around 40 pounds from the day of my accident to now so Im a bit worried about problematic fittings from the outset. I was a weight guy at around 190 pounds and now I look like I escaped from siberia, I blame it on the hospital food.

    attached is a picture of me last week, Ive still got a way to go on the healing


    Now that I've seen your picture, there are some things you need to consider.

    First, your hands need to heal. That will allow you to transfer from bed to wheelchair, etc. Then you will need to heal your right leg. I doubt if any prosthetist will try to fit you with anything without you being able to stand on one leg. This has to do with height. Of course your stump has to heal, also.

    I also notice you're wearing a back brace (?). How is that doing?

    I don't mean to sound like a "wet blanket", but there are certain steps that have to happen.

    I was in a car accident, was trapped for over an hour and had a fire start under my seat. I have scars all over my left arm and had to get that healed up before I could transfer. I can now lift my weight with either hand.

    I know how it is to be "helpless" and I encourage you to work on getting more independent. I had a similar weight loss in hospital, only worse cause I was there longer. I thought I looked like an Auschwitz survivor (sorry, that was a little before your time).

    It's times like this that I wish I had a "magic wand", but I don't.

    Keep in touch!