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BethMarie last won the day on October 23 2016

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    Kamloops, British Columbia Canada
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    A stupid rushing driver

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  1. BethMarie


    Hi Ellen. Welcome to the Heather group. This use to be a very active site, but since the Amputee Coalition also has a site like this it has been very quiet here, so please don't feel slighted or rejected if you do not get many replies. I can relate to what you are saying. I too do not Present as to what I have lost--I am a right below knee amp from about 10 years ago--hit by a woman who did not look where she was turning. I went through 3 years of multiple surgeries to fix my badly broken ankle until I said enough is enough and got it amputated. It was the very best solution and I had about 9 years of doing what I wanted to do until my left hip had to be replaced. I have had multiple issues with that leg--I say my right leg (amp) is my good leg! I too have made it appear relatively easy to people around me and that has not given me the support I really need. People have been great, But I too feel very alone. If it weren't for my Labrador I don't think I would have done as well. She is sadly aging and I don't know what I would do without her/. Realizing this I have gotten a now 4 month old Labrador puppy. It is a wild ride, but she will be a great dog after puppy-hood! Feel free to contact me if you are feeling low or .... Peace, Beth Marie
  2. BethMarie

    Decisions Decisions

  3. BethMarie

    Decisions Decisions

    Hi Keith, i chose to have RBK amp about 10 years. I went through many operation—far less than you! I was tired of the pain and mainly how it had impacted my life—I was very active before my accident—a woman hit my car because she was distracted. When I made the decision I knew I wanted to go back to my life. It took me about a year of rehab and I got discouraged, but I did get back to what I wanted to do in a different way for example I lead trips to Viet Nam for small groups—have done 6 since my amputation. Only you can decided. You did not say where you live, but you might want to check out the Amputation Coalition in the US. I live in Canada and am an active participant feeling very welcome. They have a very wonderful annual conference that provides a lots of education. Blessings, Beth Marie
  4. BethMarie

    New to the forum.

    Welcome to the journey. I am sorry no one has replied to you, but this forum is far less active than it was in past years. I think it is due to the fact most people have migrated to the forum on the Amputation Coalition website. This is a GREAT place to chat with other amputees, get excellent information on living as an amputee. Without this organization I would not be a happy amputee. I am not sure where you live, but it is open to all no matter where you live and joining us free. I hope you will investigate it and join in! Peace, Beth Marie
  5. BethMarie

    Oh well

    Hi, You are not really being ignored, although I sure understand why you feel left out to dry. This forum used to be VERY active and usually there would be many responses. This forum has lost that activity, mostly I believe that the participants have migrated to Amputation Coalition site. If you do not know it, it is well worth exploring it. There is a similar site as Heather's and a great source of information and other amputees. I am finding answering on this forum difficult, but I wanted to help you!
  6. BethMarie

    New to the forum and new to life with one hand

    Cheryl, Are you going to meeting in July? Love to room with you.
  7. BethMarie

    New to the forum and new to life with one hand

    Hi, I am not an arm amputee, but to me sounds like you are adjusting well--Congratulations!!!!
  8. BethMarie


    Hi, I am RBK, so I do not know that much about knees. Your best bet is to find a prosthetic person who you can relate to and then let him/her help you. Also, there is Amputee Coalition meeting in Louisville KY the first week August and a lot of the main prosthetic companies are there demonstrating their legs, but it can be overwhelming with all the products, so your best bet is to find a local person. Remember this person will be your "best friend" for years, so choose carefully. Best of luck
  9. BethMarie

    Please help: fusion or elective BKA decision

    Hi Kait, Welcome to the forum. Although I am much older I struggled with elective amputation about 10 years ago--I too wanted my life back. I got much of the same backlash from some friends and my doctor. He was a good doctor and I really liked him, but I had had 4 surgeries for my ankle--from car crash--and I was fed up with watching life go by. Like you I did lots of research and felt amputation was the best chance for me. This the clue you need to decide what is best for YOU. I told my doctor if he could not do it, sadly I would need to find someone else wh would. about six months later when he saw how well I was doing, he said , "weshould have done this a year ago." You are an adult and you need to decide what is best for YOU. For most people I found they reacted with horror and discouraged me--my doctor felt like he needed to remind me it was permanent--duh! I just found Cheryl's response to you and what she said so well is my experience too--amputation gave me back my life! So, as you research a good place to explore is the Amputee Coalition in the US--the provide lots of great info. I do not know where you live, but the Coalition puts on a yearly conference that is great, informative and lots of young people attend. I wish you all the best in this difficult decision making process. Peace
  10. BethMarie

    Hello All, Basset Here,

    Hi Bassett, I am glad you are thinking about the conference, but it is tough to have it coincide with the first week of school. I am not sure what you mean when you asked what happened at the beginning of the week. The first few days are mostly for people who want to learn to be peer visitors ( you need to be an amputee for a while and adjusted--great thing to do next year) There is also a meeting for Amputation group leaders, so things don't really get going until later. I think it would be worthwhile for you to come for a couple even just for the prosthetic companies. Do you know when the powers that be are planning on fitting you with a leg? I hope you will continue to heal well. Peace, Beth Marie
  11. BethMarie

    Hello All, Basset Here,

    Hi Bassett, As one other person said you really do have a great attitude and that will serve you well on your through the amputee journey. Like you I decided to have my right lower leg amputation after three year trying to save it--it was a great decision and I have never regretted it. As you research prosthetic choices I would suggest you come to the Amputation Coalition annual meeting in Louisville in August. Most of the main prosthetic manufactures are there and it is how I am my present prosthesis and it is great and I never would have thought of it. It is an informative meeting, but also great fun. Hope to meet you there. Blessings on your journey. Peace, Beth Marie Murphy BC Canada
  12. BethMarie

    Looking for support (for daughter)

    I am glad to hear Lauren is doing so well--she is such a strong young women. It would be great to see you both at the Amputation conference in August. Peace, Beth Marie
  13. BethMarie


    Hi Sunny, I am sorry you are in such pain--phantom pain can be terrible. At least for me, the first year was not great and I thought I would never get back to what I really wanted to do and be. Remember it has just been 5 weeks since your surgery and also part of the pain probably is part surgical pain. I hope you feel you can have a good relationship with your prosthetic gal/guy--they really need to be someone you are comfortable talking to. I had to learn patience the first year--a hard lesson to learn. Since the end of the first year I have had a great life. I always say I am a happy amputee--wish it didn't happen, but I have moved on. I travel quite a bit and take a group on tour to Viet Nam each year--a very inaccessible place. I really applaud you for reaching out to others--they is important. You might want to check out the Amputation Coalition site in the US--it has a great deal of excellent information and they have a more active chat. I live in Canada and anyone is welcome to join the Amputation Coalition. |Good luck and stay in touch. Peace, Beth Marie
  14. BethMarie

    My new life without arms

    Thomas, What a wonderful story. I am so glad you have the happiness you have. Beth Marie Kamloops, British Columbia Canada
  15. BethMarie

    Hi all, Through knee advice needed please

    Hi I am sorry I can't help you, but I didn't want you think no one cares. I wish you all the best and a quick recovery!