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BethMarie last won the day on October 23 2016

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    Kamloops, British Columbia Canada
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    A stupid rushing driver

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  1. BethMarie

    Oh well

    Hi, You are not really being ignored, although I sure understand why you feel left out to dry. This forum used to be VERY active and usually there would be many responses. This forum has lost that activity, mostly I believe that the participants have migrated to Amputation Coalition site. If you do not know it, it is well worth exploring it. There is a similar site as Heather's and a great source of information and other amputees. I am finding answering on this forum difficult, but I wanted to help you!
  2. BethMarie

    New to the forum and new to life with one hand

    Cheryl, Are you going to meeting in July? Love to room with you.
  3. BethMarie

    New to the forum and new to life with one hand

    Hi, I am not an arm amputee, but to me sounds like you are adjusting well--Congratulations!!!!
  4. BethMarie


    Hi, I am RBK, so I do not know that much about knees. Your best bet is to find a prosthetic person who you can relate to and then let him/her help you. Also, there is Amputee Coalition meeting in Louisville KY the first week August and a lot of the main prosthetic companies are there demonstrating their legs, but it can be overwhelming with all the products, so your best bet is to find a local person. Remember this person will be your "best friend" for years, so choose carefully. Best of luck
  5. BethMarie

    Please help: fusion or elective BKA decision

    Hi Kait, Welcome to the forum. Although I am much older I struggled with elective amputation about 10 years ago--I too wanted my life back. I got much of the same backlash from some friends and my doctor. He was a good doctor and I really liked him, but I had had 4 surgeries for my ankle--from car crash--and I was fed up with watching life go by. Like you I did lots of research and felt amputation was the best chance for me. This the clue you need to decide what is best for YOU. I told my doctor if he could not do it, sadly I would need to find someone else wh would. about six months later when he saw how well I was doing, he said , "weshould have done this a year ago." You are an adult and you need to decide what is best for YOU. For most people I found they reacted with horror and discouraged me--my doctor felt like he needed to remind me it was permanent--duh! I just found Cheryl's response to you and what she said so well is my experience too--amputation gave me back my life! So, as you research a good place to explore is the Amputee Coalition in the US--the provide lots of great info. I do not know where you live, but the Coalition puts on a yearly conference that is great, informative and lots of young people attend. I wish you all the best in this difficult decision making process. Peace
  6. BethMarie

    Hello All, Basset Here,

    Hi Bassett, I am glad you are thinking about the conference, but it is tough to have it coincide with the first week of school. I am not sure what you mean when you asked what happened at the beginning of the week. The first few days are mostly for people who want to learn to be peer visitors ( you need to be an amputee for a while and adjusted--great thing to do next year) There is also a meeting for Amputation group leaders, so things don't really get going until later. I think it would be worthwhile for you to come for a couple even just for the prosthetic companies. Do you know when the powers that be are planning on fitting you with a leg? I hope you will continue to heal well. Peace, Beth Marie
  7. BethMarie

    Hello All, Basset Here,

    Hi Bassett, As one other person said you really do have a great attitude and that will serve you well on your through the amputee journey. Like you I decided to have my right lower leg amputation after three year trying to save it--it was a great decision and I have never regretted it. As you research prosthetic choices I would suggest you come to the Amputation Coalition annual meeting in Louisville in August. Most of the main prosthetic manufactures are there and it is how I am my present prosthesis and it is great and I never would have thought of it. It is an informative meeting, but also great fun. Hope to meet you there. Blessings on your journey. Peace, Beth Marie Murphy BC Canada
  8. BethMarie

    Looking for support (for daughter)

    I am glad to hear Lauren is doing so well--she is such a strong young women. It would be great to see you both at the Amputation conference in August. Peace, Beth Marie
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    Hi Sunny, I am sorry you are in such pain--phantom pain can be terrible. At least for me, the first year was not great and I thought I would never get back to what I really wanted to do and be. Remember it has just been 5 weeks since your surgery and also part of the pain probably is part surgical pain. I hope you feel you can have a good relationship with your prosthetic gal/guy--they really need to be someone you are comfortable talking to. I had to learn patience the first year--a hard lesson to learn. Since the end of the first year I have had a great life. I always say I am a happy amputee--wish it didn't happen, but I have moved on. I travel quite a bit and take a group on tour to Viet Nam each year--a very inaccessible place. I really applaud you for reaching out to others--they is important. You might want to check out the Amputation Coalition site in the US--it has a great deal of excellent information and they have a more active chat. I live in Canada and anyone is welcome to join the Amputation Coalition. |Good luck and stay in touch. Peace, Beth Marie
  10. BethMarie

    My new life without arms

    Thomas, What a wonderful story. I am so glad you have the happiness you have. Beth Marie Kamloops, British Columbia Canada
  11. BethMarie

    Hi all, Through knee advice needed please

    Hi I am sorry I can't help you, but I didn't want you think no one cares. I wish you all the best and a quick recovery!
  12. BethMarie

    Saying Hello

    Hi, I would imagine being young and an amputee is difficult. I am glad you made the transition. I lost my leg when I was 60 from an accident and thankfully I can say I ama happy amputee and live a full life. This group use to be very active, but now with the Amputee Coalition started a chat group and it is very active. You might want to try it. Peace Beth Marie
  13. BethMarie

    introducing myself

    Hi, Please don't get discouraged at this point, you are still a very new amputee. I felt the same way when I was at your point, but life does get better as long as you work at making it better. By this I mean doing strengthening and balance exercises and keep using your prothesis. It took me a little more than a year to feel comfortable lto do things, try things. One of the best pieces of advise I got was it the prothesis is painful--more than just a little uncomfortable--there is something wrong with the prothesis. I needed to go back and back and back until it was right. I am now7-8 years post below the knee amputation and life is very good and I can do most things I could before--I may not be the quickest to do it, but I can do it. As amputee we have to do all the things we did before in a different way. Different is not wrong, it is just different!! One of the best sites in the world for amputees is It is a wealth of information of all kinds including an online booklet about being a first year amputee, exercises, and a much more active support group than the suit where you found this information. Amputee Coalition | Resources and news for amputees ...www.amputee-coalition.org I wish you welll and please do not hesitate to contact me for support etc on this site. Beth Marie British Columbia, Canada
  14. Hi Standing Tall, I don't have any experience with CP, but I do have experience of doctors and Prosthetic folk selling me short about what I could do. My advice is to push the system very hard. Don't let go of what you can do/pretty sure you could do. Never give up,however learning to use a prosthesis does take time so be patient with yourself and keep going. Peace and good luck, Beth Marie Kamloops, BC lCanada
  15. Hi Julie, I can relate oh so well to your story although mine only went on for three years before I opted for a BKA. I was in a bad car accident--the woman was not looking where she was going. I was in hospital for two week, but the swelling had to g0 down. The orthopaedic surgeon I drew (was flown back to Canada by air ambulance and he was the surgeon on call--bad choice) He was a really bad doctor as even though the doctors in Boston, where I was injured, said I would need surgeon. This guy's pronouncement was, "well, I dunno what I would operate on." I finally became such a headache for him he transferred me to the ankle specialist. It was like night and day--this fellow was GREAT and as soon as I was transferred I had surgery within in the week. It was plated and screwed, but it never really healed and I was in pain and in a wheelchair. About 4 months later he decised an ankle replacement was the key--no such luck. Finally he decided to fuse it--the cure all he told me--no such luck. He was a great surgeon and a great doctor, so I couldn't blame the surgeries. Once again the surgery failed. I was fed up with being in a wheelchair--my boss refused to do any kind of accomodation to allow me to get into work except by crawling--that is another whole story. I decided my best bet was an amputation, but my doctor thought that was too radical--he questioned whether I realized it was forever--ugh yes! He scheduled an appointment with the amputation doctor who evaluates for amputation and by good fortune I never got to see him before my surgery as I know he would have said NO from a later encounter. I did lots of research, talked to the Prosthetic department (prosthetics were under a provincial plan) . They were great and encouraging. So, I had the RBK amp and have never looked back. In fact I went to see the doctor 18 months later doing very well and he said to me, "We probably should have done this 2 years ago!" Like you I was very active and was more than fed up being in a wheelchair. Even though the first year was tough, I have regained my life. I have totally renovated my house (95% myself), I care for my yard and I got back to leading tours to Viet Nam (I was a nurse in the American War and fell in love with the country and people) So, there are some things I am working on like getting back to Rock Climbing--but it is coming. And I am no spring chicken at 69. I found the trick is don't let others tell you what you can/are able do as my friends have not been correct. If I think reasonable I can do it--I do it. OIn your research be sure you at the Amputation Coalition http://www.amputee-coalition.org/and https://www.facebook.com/AmputeeUSAThey hold a conterence each year and the first one I went to gave me my life back. Next year June in Greenville, NC Yesterday I got a new foot which is more technology advanced and although each new foot takes getting use to, I already love it and feel more secure. If you have more questions please ask. Peace, Beth Marie Murphy, Kamloops British Columbia