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caz

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About caz

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    Family Member/Friend of Amputee
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    BTK
  • Amputation Date:
    12-31-2011
  • Amputation Cause:
    ANKLE FUSSION
  1. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    hiye keith, he is 40 and he havent been in the forces,we were under the impression he had to have the amputation due to a football injury, although that didnt help it was down to something he was born with, something happened either during birth or not long after which caused some deformatie in his feet???? not quite sure what yet, consultant did explain but we didnt take it in, but will find out again when we meet with his consultant. He have always had funny shapped feet, consultant told us that within next 20 years he will have to have other leg off too, but in mean time he is sorting him out with some sort of brace for the other leg. Its daves decision to wait till after the summer at the earliest not the hospitals, he said he wants to get holidays out of way, and he wants to keep his leg as long as possible.
  2. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    Hiye, he don't have date set as yet,but it deffo won't be this side of summer, he didn't meet any amputees,there were some amputee older men there when we went in but he wouldn't look,nor sit near any,but now he have asked to go to a clinic here and meet some. He really is so different now and its made me feel better too, and everyone on this forum have been great, he sits with me now whilst I read posts out to him, brilliant x
  3. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    just to let u all know, we went to selly oak to meet the consultation team and what a difference in dave, omg he is just so possitive now, its just like having my dave back, we went in and saw the occupational therapist, who was lovely, then we saw the consultant who seemed to have all the time in the world for us, then we saw a advice officer, then the counsellor then the consultant again, then the pysiotherapist. We were down there for 4 1/2 hours and it was non stop information and whats going to happen, and what we will need, they were so lovely people, and r now daves team, who will look after him from now on, we were so surprised, everyone was so helpful, and everyone seemed to know everything about dave, he feels as though he is not on his own now, just want to thank everyone for all thier help and support for these last few months, its been a total nightmare, and i can honestly say i can see the light at the end of the tunnel now, xx
  4. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    we go to selly oak tomorrow so we will have a look thx for everyones help and advice, u all dont know how helpful and supportive u have been thx again caz x
  5. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    thank you ann for replying, i have looked at the link u have given me and the nearest support group is in bristol, which is a long trek from were we live, we had some good news today, his blue badge arrived in the post, which he was so pleased about, no more going to town and then me having to go and get the car and pick him up from were ever he couldnt walk anymore, all i can do at the moment is be there, i do get so frustrated some days but i cant show it, he have just rang me now wanting to just talk, and he said he really needs a cuddle, thats all i can do for him at the moment, i just hope and pray he will be a bit more possitive after next weds, he did ring a number this morning,( i think he was expecting me to ring it for him,) asking for some advice, they r going to send him a pack or something which will help him. Its all very slow progress at the moment but we will get there, he let me read out a private mail from here which i recieved yesterday and he went all quiet, so i didnt say anything else to him, it was a very possitive email, but i think dave just needed time to let it sink in what id read, but hey he still said i could read it to him, which if i had asked him a few weeks back he would have said no stop preassuring me. I do believe the best councelling dave could get it by meeting amputees, and maybe he will talk more then I feel real numb today, just cant wait for weds, and maybe see a bit of light xxx
  6. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    Lol there's a point never thought of that.
  7. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    thank u both so much, when we go to see the amputee man a week weds he is supposed to be sorting dave out with some councelling, and he will get to spend time with amputees and talk to them, i hope he will be more possitive after this
  8. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    Hiye cherylm, When dave is stressed he usually figures it out for him self, he keeps alot to him self, he wont ask opinions of our friends, but if he is having a crisis he will come to me, usually if we go on a picnic or out for a day we have fun and a laugh, but he wouldnt go anywere unless he wanted to, i wouldnt be able to force him. We went to visit our best friends after yesterday/last night and we had a brilliant time, dave came out of the down day after yesterday, we were in the garden and he was pottering around spraying a patio heater, and i told him he did a good job, i said looks like new, and our neighbour said omg i didnt recognize it, i said thing is with dave is he dont let things get him down for long, he just gets on with it,( i dunno if that made him feel a bit better, but he looked at me and smiled, and seemed to snap out of it after that),
  9. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    hi, dave is on a real downer today we recieved confirmtion of appointment to amputee clinic, and he has just gone down to see about getting a blue badge for the car, he said they said it would have to be reviewed and he would hear in 5 days,what will i do, will i carry on being cherpy? should i say i am going out to see my friend and leave him on his own ( his own space) i dunno what to do or say today, all i get in return r grunts ???? I asked him if he wants to go for a picnic tomorrow or sunday just me him and the girls and he said no!!! i really dont know what to do caz xx
  10. Thankyou very much, i will take a look
  11. caz

    Where in the UK?

    it is beautiful, very picturesqe
  12. thank you everyone for making me very welcome caz x
  13. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    hiye mick thank u for replying, he dosent want to give up work, we dont know if he will be able to continue doing the job he is doing now,( health and safety and all that), but they will accomodate him someway, im sure even in another department. Its not that he cant be bothered to look on here, he just dosent want to, i suppose he may when he feels he is ready to, although i ave just read ur post out to him, and he listened, which is more than he would do yesterday, he is sat there quiet now, and ive just told him to have a flick through and read peoples stories on here, im going out in a minute to pick up some friends so hopefully he will sit down here and read thx caz xx
  14. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    I hope he does too,I am at work now but I left the forum page on the lap top at home,so hopefully he will have a read,and if u r reading this Dave I love u with all my heart and we will get through this x x x
  15. caz

    awaiting counselling atm

    Thankyou neal, he is just scared and nervous, hopefully after going to birmingham he will feel a bit possitive, ive just got to be there for him and do what i can, i try to tell him the possitives etc, but he says i know but i just dont want to loose my leg, its ok for people to say ill be better off. im looking forward to going to birmingham, im just hoping it will give dave a more possitive outlook and he can get his head round it more, fingers crossed, at the moment he is pottering around out side in the garden doing little jobs, and i think he is doing them, cos he thinks he wont be able to climb round back of pond(or it will be harder to) once its off, so im just letting him get on with it, cos i think that means he is accepting it a bit more, if u know what i mean?? caz x
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