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    rbk and left transtibial
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    drug side effect

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  1. Hi Julie, I have had ten or so surgeries, none of which used General Anaesthetic, just spinal nerve blocks. Like you, I don't care for GA as the after-effects can be grim. I had no problems in surgery at all and no phantom pain either. I read somewhere last year that phantoms are less likely with nerve blocks but couldn't say if that's true or not, I've only my own experience to call on - good luck! (p.s. I'm also in the UK so understand the workings of the NHS...).
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    Bulky Foot Shell Issue

    Thanks for that! it was an option I hadn't considered but will now try.
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    Bulky Foot Shell Issue

    Hi All, Kitkat, I'm curious to know how you use Velcro to hold ballet flats on. (Or am I being even thicker than usual?!). Do you use it over the foot from one side to the other? I have such trouble with 'cute' shoes as my prosthetist won't let me wear them and insists on trainers (which I loathe).I would LOVE to find a nice pair of flatties which stay on...
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    Having problems with NHS prosthetics in the UK

    Finally, a tiny bit of publicity....such a shame it wasn't picked up by the other media and given more prominence.
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    Looking for support (for daughter)

    I'm really pleased she is doing so well - and just as importantly, how are you?! It can be so hard on the family and she is a lucky young woman to have so much support, but we all know that the worry can take its toll on the family. You sound so positive and I hope you are looking after yourself as well as you are looking after Lauren. Best wishes and congratulations to Lauren from the UK on passing another milestone in recovery!
  6. Congratulations to Heather Mills on becoming the world's fastest disabled female skier!
  7. Sorry to hear about your ongoing problems Cheryl and I wish you all the best for your forthcoming surgery. Yes, it's a pain, but as you say, better than losing part of your foot... I honestly don't think you're overreacting (sp?) about your alarming experience - I'd be fuming too!The woman showed not only extreme ignorance, but her insensitivity is unacceptable for someone in her position. I'm sure that her 'boss' ( I think here in the UK it would be the Sister-in-Charge) would want to know about the incident. As you so rightly point out, there are other patients who may not be as alert and assertive as yourself who will also have to experience her bizarre and unorthodox practices! There are so many people who are unemployed who would LOVE a job like hers, and if she doesn't like her work I'm sure there are plenty of competent, sensitive and professional women who would gladly do it for her. You can always temper your complaint by praising those areas of care which you found to be excellent. Good luck and do let us know what you decide to do - and what the response is. And keep us posted about your surgery too!
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    Ladies Question re Wearing Dresses

    However you dress, whatever your culture, whatever your abilities or disabilities,a good man will love you for who you are. I have been married for a long time, so losing my leg at 52 was not so hard on me because my husband loved me before it happened and even more since. I know it's hard for younger women but there are MANY people on the forums who have met their partners since their amputations and have gone on to very happy and fulfilled lives - and you will too. So don't be despondent!It won't be easy, but get out there and start meeting men from other cultures who are kind and loving (assuming your religion permits it). Western clothes are very practical (well, the trousers are)and comfortable, easier to put on than a sari (if less beautiful).And perfect for Uni. There is no rule to say you can't mix it up and wear either is there? Go shopping with your friends for practical wheelchair stuff - it needn't be frumpy, there's plenty of pretty clothing out there which is fashionable but modest. Seven yards of sari entangled in the spokes of a wheelchair is NOT something I'd want to deal with....BTW any man who dismisses you just because you have a disability would make a lousy partner and should be avoided! A lot of attention from Englishmen? Fabulous! Go get 'em.....you only live once - just be careful of course.
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    Ladies Question re Wearing Dresses

    p.s. Welcome to the forum!
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    Ladies Question re Wearing Dresses

    Saris are beautiful and can hide a multitude of sins, but putting one on when you are in a wheelchair must be a nightmare!
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    Hi from pre-amp in uk

    Wow! do you think if I ask my prosthetist he'll give me one of those...?
  12. Hi Capt. , I'm glad to hear the surgery's gone well! Yes, that maximum weight thing about shoulder joints was also a long conversation for me...more importantly (or as importantly) is the limited movement - I have only now been told I shan't be able to get my arm above 90 degrees. This means doing my own hair etc. is still beyond me and is actually making me rethink having the other shoulder done as I really don't want to end up needing more help than I already do.As for crutches, I use mine for balance more than anything and now just pray if I stumble I won't dislocate the new joint because of the crutch. Isn't it frustrating that surgeons can't think about anything beyond their own speciality! I am also tired of having to tell every new person I see my 'back story' when they have all my notes right in front of them...We unfortunately have to stay one step ahead of the health professionals and lead any discussion rather than just accepting their expertise as fact (does that make any sense?). If I don't keep sharp, something gets forgotten or ignored or neglected as I am the only person who knows what the longterm implications can be. Sometimes when a doctor is telling me something will be good for me I know on a whole other level it absolutely won't be! Doctors usually respect that - but carers often don't. Good luck with your next surgery! p.s. love the rib/heart analogy.
  13. Hi Twint, sorry it's taken this long to get back to you - I've been recovering from shoulder surgery and haven't been able to do much! I've been away from this forum for a while because of it and have only just seen your post. I thought mine was rotator cuff as well, but it was a completely messed up joint, the result of years of arthritis. I 'learnt' to walk on my new legs last year and in the process, put too much strain on my shoulders by relying on crutches too much and by using parallel bars rather over-enthusiastically! Anyway, now my left shoulder (the replacement) has limited movement and is still very weak and my right shoulder is still agony (original joint). The recovery itself was fine barring one thing - managing daily tasks such as putting my leg on. I don't know if you are in the UK or not, but in the UK we have six weeks of home assistance post operatively if we need it. After six weeks you have to fund it straight from your own pocket (rather than via the taxes we pay to the NHS).Once I got home, the system we have here proved to be unsuitable for people with multiple disabilities. The agency employed to give me home care simply couldn't understand how disabled the op had left me and the whole recovery became a nightmare of washing, dressing and personal care with people who didn't have a clue. It was so humiliating I have now decided that I can't go through it again at home and will wait to have my other shoulder done until I can afford a place in a rehab unit. (As we don't have insurance for our health care here we have to find the full price for anything outside of the NHS cover unless we have opted into an insurance scheme - something which disabled people find impossible to be accepted for). I hope you managed your post-op well and that you are now able to put your leg on unaided. I also asked on the forum if anyone had any tips, but like yourself found it's obviously something that few of us have had to try and cope with (thank god!). I would really like to hear how you got on, so please post here when your rotator cuff repair allows you to! (any advice at this late point would be a waste of time, but my only advice would have been to sort out MAJOR home help before the operation...sorry, no use at all).
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    How do I get dressed?!

    Thank you Kitkat - sound advice as always. At least I know I'm on the right track - I'm using bits and bobs like long-arm reachers etc. to help with dressing and undressing and I'm scouring the internet for other useful gizmos. I do find though that in theory the gadgets are a fab idea but in reality they never quite live up to the expectation. I think you may also be right about needing to go to a rehab centre .I know my family are more than happy to help, but I am going to be so incapacitated for a while I just want to be as prepared as possible beforehand!
  15. Hi All, I am in need of a bit of advice from any upper limb amputees.... I have a RBK amputation and a transmetatarsal on the left. Whilst I was learning to walk last year I managed to permanently damage both my shoulders (they were very arthritic to begin with) and am now facing replacement surgery on the left one in two weeks time. As the other arm is pretty useless too, I am panicking about managing post-op. How do I dress myself and take care of myself??? Or.... is this really impossible and should I be accepting that I am going to need a LOT of assistance whilst I am recovering? (As you may have gathered, I am a rather independent type). The pain is so horrendous that surgery is my only option but these matters are keeping me awake at night. All thoughts gratefully received!