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Anne

You are so not a fraud.

You are a super mum whos devotion to her daughter is legendary, you are an awesome lady and vicki must be so proud of you i think you deserve a medal and you are the kind of person that really makes a difference to our society. Well done you. I admire the love, care and support you have shown vicki, which i strongly believe is a massive testament to you, as a father i know we would do anything for our children and if i can be half the father to Amelia that you have been to vicki i know i will have done a very very good job.

And vicki ... Keep going babe you will get there!

All my love and best wishes to you both

Neil & family

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Neil, you've made me cry :D . Seriously though, if you knew Victoria's courage, you would know just how easy it is to love her. She is without doubt one of the bravest people I know.

She absolutely loves her job, although she is stlll finding it hard with the socket problem. She saw the prosthetist yesterday and they have discovered a lump in her groin from the ill fitting socket. An unusual type of silicone belt has been ordered from America for her, which I understand will eliminate the problems she has been having. It will also be cosmetically better. Victoria still continues to lose weight, and the waist belt that she currently wears does spoil the look of any clothes she wears. On this note, she is now have a meal at work each day in the Ikea canteen, so fingers crossed :D

Victoria has tried for so long to get back into the workplace, and now that she has a job, would you believe that another Company that had previously turned her down has asked to to go for interview. It gave her great pleasure to thank them for their interest but decline their offer.

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Guest bearlover

Ann, You are far from a fraud! Nothing of a kind, you are a true Mum through and through. A mum's love dose not end just because children grow up and become adults. You were her life support for 9 months as you carrued her. She will always be your child no matter what. I was not blessed with children but I do know the true love of a mother a love that is awesome and totally unconditional. You and Viki are both blessed to have each other. A mother and Daughter bond is one of the most powerful bonds of humen nature..You rock as a mum!

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Hi friends,

I can't believe that it's been so many months since my last visit.

Victoria continues to do well in her job, and has slowly pulled away and is living her own life. Obviously the last five and a half years have created a closeness between us that goes beyond mother and daughter.

She continues to have socket problems and her continued weight loss and the stump shrinkage mean that she is constantly needing re-casting.

I intimated in previous posts that I was having health problems myself. Unfortunately these have become quite serious but Victoria is being a tower of strength to me whilst I am awaiting results of many things including the possibility of bowel cancer.

On a separate note has anyone heard anythingv from Gil? He and I used to exchange many e-mails but they have been returned to me for some time now.

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Anne, I am sorry to inform you but Gil passed away last year. Very suddenly. The post is here somewhere. We all miss him.

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Anne, it's good to hear from you! I'm glad that Vicki's doing so well, and I hope that your own problems will turn out to be easily treatable... you folks have already been through quite enough difficult times!

As Marcia mentioned, we did lose Gil last year. It was a shock to everyone, and he's deeply missed.

Please keep us posted both on how Vicki's doing AND on your own situation... you have friends here who are concerned!

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I too am glad to hear Vicki is doing well, as I hope everyone here is doing well.

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Hi friends. Yet again time has passed so quickly. Victoria has changed her job and now works in an administrative role in the local prison. She has only been in her new role for 3 weeks so is still learning, but is enjoying it nonetheless.

Around 8 months ago her low-life of a husband started sniffing around her again (now that all the hard work is done). I decided to take a back seat and pick up the pieces, if necessary. She was really happy that they were going to try and make things work again, and she was making plans for him to move back in. True to form the rat broke her hart again, when he told her that a girl he was seeing after he left her was expecting his baby, and he wants to be part of the baby's life.

Yet again my beautiful, brave daughter is trying to rebuild her life. But hey, now I've got that off my chest, I can talk about the positives.

Although now very skinny after all her weight loss, Victoria has stabilised. We had thought that the shrinkage of her leg would have stopped by now (almost 2 years) but that is not the case. But sh is only having to recast every three months, so it's not so bad.

Victoria's daughter, my grandaughter, is nearly 18 now so is beginning to reach out to her own interests and although she does not spend quite so much time at home, is still a very caring daughter, and a great sense of support for her mum.

My own health issues seem to be sorting themselves out. I am receiving treatment for Diabetes, Osteo Arthritis and Rheumatoid Arthritis. Am am still awaiting results of other investigsations. But I feel much better in myself.

My husband has booked to take me off another cruise early next year, and to visit a place I have always dreamed of seeing (The Taj Mahal). It is a relitively short trip of one month, but it will be the first break we have had for over a year.

Victoria is also going to be taking a holiday with a girlfriend in Spain, She is very nervous of sitting on a beach with her swimmig leg, but I think it is a step in the right direction. Up until now she has refused to go anywhere that she might be seen without her leg on.

I look forward to reading more from my friends in the forum, and will never forget the support and friendship you have all provided since Victoria's decision to proceed with her amp.

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Hi Anne,

Glad to hear you are well and are going on that cruise. I hope Vicky can find that special someone who will love her and accept her for who she is. Perhaps that trip to Spain is just what she needs to have some fun and excitement again in her life again. Tell her not to worry about the leg. Most people are fine with amputees. The few who stare just need to get a life. Best wishes to you both and on having great trips!

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I agree with Freddy on this one, Anne... it's awfully good to hear some good news on both you and Vicky! Enjoy your cruise!

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Wow how time has flown. I didn't realise that is is almost a year since I last posted. Victoria is now a fully paid up member of the British tax payers society.

She works at the local prison in an admin role. She has been there for almost 9 months and loves it. She is also taking a University degree, with which she hopes to get into forensics.

There are ongoing problems with her prosthetic leg, but she doesn't let it get her down. She still goes to concerts, dances, and pretty much does anything her peers do, and even on a very bad day, she refuses to get back into her wheelchair.

I thank the Lord for giving me back my beautiful, gutsy daughter who I lost for four years after that terrible accident. All the hard work and tears have paid off, and besides her full time job, she finds time to cares for me as my own health deteriorates. Why only a couple of weeks ago she cam round to clean my windows for me.

I will never forget, too, my friends here on the forum who supported me during those deep dark days. Also I hope that some of the 17.000 pluss visitore to this thread have taken some comfort.

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Hi, Anne... it's good to hear from you again! Also very good to hear about Vicki's progress. Remind her that she needs to keep after her leg guys to resolve any problems with her prosthesis... she's entitled to the best-fitting, most comfortable leg possible.

I'm sorry to hear that you're still having health problems, but glad to hear that you've got some "care" from Vicki. I'll bet she's quite happy to be able to "do" for someone else.

Take care of yourself, and don't be a stranger!

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Wow how time has flown. I didn't realise that is is almost a year since I last posted. Victoria is now a fully paid up member of the British tax payers society.

She works at the local prison in an admin role. She has been there for almost 9 months and loves it. She is also taking a University degree, with which she hopes to get into forensics.

There are ongoing problems with her prosthetic leg, but she doesn't let it get her down. She still goes to concerts, dances, and pretty much does anything her peers do, and even on a very bad day, she refuses to get back into her wheelchair.

I thank the Lord for giving me back my beautiful, gutsy daughter who I lost for four years after that terrible accident. All the hard work and tears have paid off, and besides her full time job, she finds time to cares for me as my own health deteriorates. Why only a couple of weeks ago she cam round to clean my windows for me.

I will never forget, too, my friends here on the forum who supported me during those deep dark days. Also I hope that some of the 17.000 pluss visitore to this thread have taken some comfort.

Hi Anne,

It is great to hear from you and about Victoria again.

JudyH

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Hi Anne,

Great to hear from you and how well Vicki is doing at work and play. You take care of yourself and be well.

Freddy

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Hi all. Again time has passed in a flash. Victoria is continuing to progress although there are still many problems with getting a correct fit in her socket. She is still driving and working. She has finally kicked the Anorexia and is a comfortable size 12(UK),10(US). I still think of you all here and will never forget the support you afforded my family. Victoria's daughter is now at University, doing a Nursing Masters degree. I would love to hear how you are all doing.

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Hi Bear. Thank you for your reply. Victoria is off again today for yet another socket. So far, after over four years, they have still not been able to achieve a satisfactory suction leg for her. She is still wearing the elastic waist band. Unfortunately this gives her all sorts of problems. Now that she is no longer Anorexic and her weight is stable, things should start to improve.

As her personal life is no better than it was, she has thrown herself back into education and has re-commenced her law degree. She has also become somewhat of a fitness fanatic. She goes to the gym at 6am each day before work for a workout, and every night after work she goes swimming.

She has also become involved in mentoring some new amputees who have joined her gym. This includes a 15 year old girl who has recently become an ak amputee.

So as you can see she really has taken her own life back again. I am amazed at just how many people have read this thread, and if even one person has found hope, it has been worthwhile.

When I joined this forum, over four years ago, I was in a deep hole, not knowing what to do to help my beautiful, brave daughter. I could never have believed that life could be so good again.

I know I have said it before, but it is all due to people like you who were able to help me to lift Victoria, and for this I will be eternally thankful.

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The fact is it that it might be a little more time before a "final" socket is made and stays "fit" for her. The limb will continue to "shrink" over time and my guys here in North Carolina say that 5 to 6 years is a good average to go by before a constint fit is achieved.

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Hi Ann, so happy Victoria is doing well.

Hey Bear!!! Long time no see!! LOL :biggrin::)

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Hi Ann, so happy Victoria is doing well.

Hey Bear!!! Long time no see!! LOL :biggrin::)

LOL!! How the hell have Ya been stumped? I haven't been here in YEARS and when I do come on you find me..LMAO!

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Thanks for the info Stumped. It's so gooooooooooooooood to return to my friends here. You are all so knowledgeable. Victoria, as I am sure you all do, gets frustrated because she feels that she is mentally fit for life and the leg prevents her from being physically fit. But hey, look how far she has come since the awful day of the accident eight years ago.

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I have been a LKB for 7 years now as of July 14th...And I'm still having shrinking issues..Ann I think we all get fustrated with a complex situation us amputees face.

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Hi Anne,

Whenever I lose weight I must line my suction socket, between the socket and frame, with hard foam sheets. This will decrease the volume of the socket and allow for a tighter fit until it gets to the point that a new socket must be made. Hopefully, Vickie will be able to get a tight fitting socket with this attempt!

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Hi there

I don't post on here very often but mum sends me links every once in a while.  Can't believe it's been nearly 11 years since this post was first added.  A quick update is things are going really well with regards to my leg apart from socket issues from time to time which is just an inconvenience.  Unforetunately we lost my stepdad nearly 3 years ago and I now provide more support to mum as her health continues to deteriorate.  She keeps herself busy. It struggles with walking and with her hands.

just want to say thanks for all the support you all showed to both mum and me along with your advice and encouragement.  I hope you are all well.

Vicki

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