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Anne, I second Rachel's words. I'm so glad that Vicki has other loving family members around her now!

Losing a loved one as the result of an amputation (or any other "disfiguring" surgery/illness) is such a deep, primal fear... I'm so sorry that Vicki's husband forced her into that situation at a time when she needs the emotional support in order to cope with the physical, mental, and emotional demands of learning a new way of life. I suppose one can hope that he will "come around" and grow up... but maybe this means that something better is coming down the line for Vicki.

As always, she -- and all your family -- are in my thoguhts!

take care... cherylm

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It is so good to see her looking so bright and pain free.

Anne/Vicky

I lost my lower left leg as the result of an auto accident/fire. I was driving and my wife was with me. Although I was the "responsible" party since I was driving she has never blamed me by word or act. She actually had more severe injuries than I.

I don't know the situation, but it may be that her husband is "running away" from his guilt. Unfortunately that fails to "fix" anything and simply adds yet another layer of guilt.

"Finding a vein" my GP had a "Porta-Cath" installed under the skin next to my collarbone. No more poking around to find a vein.

I had a lot of hallucinations when I came off Morphine. In the burn unit we called it "Loopyland" but I really don't have a clue how much they gave me. I had 45% burns and a mangled lower leg so .....

Every one is praying for a positive outcome on all fronts. Encourage your daughter to do as much as is reasonable. bed to chair transfers, etc are very important to her. I can remember yelling at the PT to "Don't touch me!!", because I wanted to really feel like I had done the transfer myself. Caused quite a stir among the medical staff, they wanted to know what was going on.

You DO need to be able to take a day off. It's hard not to be there, but it will do both of you a world of good if you can arrange it.

Our prayers are with you and Vicky. Keep on keepin' on!

Gil Davis

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Hi All

Victoria has had a good couple of days. Because of event over the last week the doctors have allowed her to come home for the whole weekend. Unfortunately we might need to go back to the hospital a little early today because even though I have changed the dressing as and when they told me, her hip is still bleding profusely and the dressings aren't containing it.

We set my lounge up as a gym yesterdat, as Victoria insisted on doing the limited excercised the physios have set for her. She had also sat at the kitchen table preparing vegetables, sorting clean washing, and generally done "chores".

I am so proud of the way my brave girl has handled things. She is determined to get up and mobile in double quick time.

I take you point Gil about taking a day off, but honestly I don't want one. Victoria are more like sisters than mother and daughter, and I want to be with her. Also I I didn't go to the hospital she wouldn't see anybody. Also My grandaughter needs to see her mom, and the hospital is too far away without me taking her there.

We enjoy gonig to the gym with her, and the physios encourage family participation. So really if I were to take a day off, I would only fret that she needed me.

I still welcome you thoughts and prayers for her.

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Oh Anne, you won't be told about this day off will you? How many people will it take to tell you? I have a mother like you (who I wouldn't change) and she has been caring for my father for nearly 2 and a half years without a break and she won't listen either. I live next door and help as much as I can and now by continuing to read your posts I feel like I need to give the pair of you a good talking to. Don't be suprised if you get a PM off me.

I continue to pray for you both and especially for the bleeding problem Victoria is trying to get past.

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Thanks Paul, you made me smile.

I think what you don't grasp is that it isn't a chore. I love Victoria so much that every moment I spend with her is a blessing.

I've left her downstairs grating the cheese for me to make a cauliflour cheese.

We are going to have a good girlie morning before I take her back to the hospital. She has a few tears when she wants to talk about her errant husband, but she soon moves on. I give thanks that she is so positive about life on her own in a few months time.

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I think what you don't grasp is that it isn't a chore. I love Victoria so much that every moment I spend with her is a blessing.

Anne/Victoria

It isn't a chore right now but you both need to be away from each other for a bit. You'll continue to hear this cause we care about both of you.

I'm very glad that Victoria is doing everything she can. It would be very bad to ever try to "protect" her from life's little/big problems. Oh, I don't mean to let her fall. She is obviously well motivated to get on with her life and she's probably best rid of the "sod' she was with. (Did I get the term right?) It's been awhile since I've been in England.

We're all praying and thinking of all of you

Gil Davis

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Victoria had a lovely weekend at home with her daughter, my husband and myself. Just being a normal family and doing as much as she could.

Unfortunately, when we got back to the hospital, the bleeding had started quite heavily again, which meant a slow down in her physio. However she is still building up strength in her upper body and other leg.

You are quite right Gil, one of the words for her errant husband is "sod", but I can think of a lot more :lol:

She was a little dissappointed to find that a lady who had her amp the same day as Victoria is being casted this week, but because of her hip wound, her own was to be delayed. I suppose that as she is less than half the age of all the other amputees having physio at the moment, she thought she would progress much faster.

She is keeping her spirits up though, and we still have many girlie laughs.

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You are quite right Gil, one of the words for her errant husband is "sod", but I can think of a lot more :lol:

Anne/Victoria

Those other words can't be posted here.

I've also had some setbacks, I think it "comes with the territory". Victoria is doing all the right things so far as building strength. That will be a real plus in the future.

Keep us informed good or bad.

Lots of love and soft fuzzies for all of you.

I'm attaching a picture for Victoia's ex, prepared by my Great-aunt Maxine.

Gil Davis

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Hi Anne, yes it is me again with the advice :unsure: I am not happy with this bleeding that is still happening. Can you get a second opinion? I will have to have another word with God as He mustn't be listening to the prayers.

Regards and more prayers.

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Guest bearlover

Good advice insane, I was about to do the same thing, This dose not seem right! Please seek a second opnion Ann!

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You are quite right Gil, one of the words for her errant husband is "sod", but I can think of a lot more :lol:

Anne/Victoria

Those other words can't be posted here.

I've also had some setbacks, I think it "comes with the territory". Victoria is doing all the right things so far as building strength. That will be a real plus in the future.

Keep us informed good or bad.

Lots of love and soft fuzzies for all of you.

I'm attaching a picture for Victoria's ex, prepared by my Great-aunt Maxine.

Gil Davis

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Gil, I love it :D

Anne/Victoria

Those other words can't be posted here.

I've also had some setbacks, I think it "comes with the territory". Victoria is doing all the right things so far as building strength. That will be a real plus in the future.

Keep us informed good or bad.

Lots of love and soft fuzzies for all of you.

I'm attaching a picture for Victoria's ex, prepared by my Great-aunt Maxine.

Gil Davis

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Thanks for the advice. I will speak to the Vascular surgeon tomorrow. As I understand it the Orthopoedic surgeon caused the problem in her hip whilst trying to locate the metalwork used to strengthen her femur. I did determine, today that it was the ortho surgeon literally using a hammer on her leg that caused the problem, and that is whiy she was in theatre for so lone needing 4 units of blood. It was the Vascular surgeon that finally found the heads to the nails, but by then the damage had already been done.

It is so difficult to tie anyone down and give you straight answers, but I will see what can be done in the morning.

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You are all in my prayers. Her husband will be the loser in the end.....wait a minute, he's already a LOSER! :P

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Guest bearlover

Her husband is more than a loser. But I don't want to get kicked off the board. Just remeber What comes around goes around. Victorria will be the better one watch and see!

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I just want to post good things, and that's what happened at physio this morning. However, this afternoon, Victoria asked me to help her shower, and guess what, another big bleed.

I spoke to a different doctor, and she said that the blood that is coming away is not fresh, and therefore it needs to come away.

We are seeing yet another specialist on Friday morning, so perhaps we will find out more by then.

Victoria remains her cheerful optimistic self, and continues to do what she can.

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Anne, it is possible for "old" blood to dry in a wound site (particularly if it's a deep wound and they're trying to heal it "from the inside out." In that case, you will see what looks like a frightening amount of "bleeding" when the wound site gets wet. Let's hope that this is the case with Victoria!

I'm glad you're continuing to check with doctors, though... after all she's been through so far, she certainly doesn't need any added complications.

take care... cherylm

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Guest bearlover

She certainly is a fighter! I hope the bleeding problem resolves soon. She continues to be in my thoughts and prayers. ;)

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Hi Cherylm

The wound in her hip is a particularly deep wound that doesn't appear to have any stitches holding it together. When the nurse was dressing it this afternoon, she did say that they wanted it to heal from the inside out, and that if it had been sutured, it could cause infection.

Anyway thank you for the reassurance

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That's absolutely correct, Anne... I'm glad to hear they're taking that approach. I know it can be unnerving to those of us who are accustomed to immediately sticking a band-aid on a cut to "seal it up," but allowing it to granulate slowly (healing from the inside out) reduces the risk of trapping infection under the skin (where it's nice and warm and moist and a perfect spot for the infection to grow).

As long as they're changing dressings as sceduled and keeping everything absolutely clean, the results can be amazing... they've used that approach on me a couple of times with a very good outcome!

take care... cherylm

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Whoopeeeeeeeeeeeee :lol: :lol: :lol:

Good news today. Victoria has not had a single bleed for the first time since the amp. She was up and walking with her PPAMaid today, and she is probably going to be able to come home again for the weekend. She is so happy, and I guess you can tell that I am too.

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Anne/Victoria

What great news!!

And what a tough little lady!! Congratulations to all and on your journey, may the road rise up to meet your feet.

:lol: B) B) :P :P :P :lol: :lol:

Gil Davis

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Anne and Victoria

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH. Well Done. Remember little steps and good luck

Rachel

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Anne, that's fabulous news! I'm sooo happy for Vicki... and for YOU, as well!

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Guest bearlover

:D :P YAHOOO! Way to go Victoria. Hope it continues to go well!! Than's awesome!!!! :D :)

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