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Anne, my heart goes out to Victoria (and you!). She is beautiful and from what you say, she has the will to do what needs to be done and do it well!

My heart actually hurts to hear of her trials with her husband. But with you and her daughter supporting her, she can focus on what needs to be done -- her rehab.

Best wishes to the three of you wonderful ladies!

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Anne, that's a wonderful picture! Victoria is, indeed, a lovely lady... and that smile just lights up the room! Thank you for sharing it with us!

With regards to her visit home... well, I'm sure it must have been terribly upsetting to stare reality in the face, and I feel for her. Hard as it was, though, I actually think she did the right thing. Putting it off only serves to delay reality and build up the dread/emotion to a much higher level. Having been there on a brief visit (and having family around to comfort her and remind her that she is NOT alone) gives her the opportunity to start "processing" what's happened, so she can be somewhat more prepared for the future. Think how much worse it could have been if she'd not gone home until she was actually "going home" and then had all of that emotion hit her head-on.

Beautiful, strong, sensible, and determined to get out there and LIVE... she's quite a gal. I can't begin to imagine how her husband could take off and leave all THAT..............!

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I love you all. You all know the right things to say to lift my spirits, and that helps me lift Victoria's.

It is a real pity that there is not a manual that tells you how to be a mom. I do my best, and I know vthat Victoria appreciates it. But saying all that, I still want to take her pain from her.

As you see from her face in the picture, she "lights up the room". Everyone connected with her rehab remark on how strong she is.

I am proud to be her mom. :D

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Wow, Anne. That's a really great pic! One can definitely see strength in her smile! I had to play catch-up on you and Vicky today and WOW!!!, what alot of progress you have all made. And truth be known, you are probably being a great help to someone, somewhere that you may never meet. I know I watched this site for 5 or 6 months before I ever joined. And, like you have found, the folks here are absolutely fantastic with success stories around every corner! Thanks for sharing yours! :D :D

:angry: And as far as the hubby goes, I know exactly what he needs. A good, ol'fashioned, one legged a-- whippin'!!

Tell him to look me up...

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Attached is a picture of Victoria on her first time on her feet. I hope it works, but I'm not at all IT minded.

http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k292/6da...eps018Small.jpg

FANTASTIC!!!!!! Keep Up the Good work.

JudyH

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post-1850-1153090902_thumb.jpgAnne/Victoria

Anne, I believe you just wrote the book "How to be a Mom".

Victoria, with your grit and beauty you're going to go far. You have wonderful support and an indomitable spirit. When do we get to see your new leg?

:angry: And as far as the hubby goes, I know exactly what he needs. A good, ol'fashioned, one legged a-- whippin'!!

Tell him to look me up...

Sorry Shane, the line has already formed and you're just behind me. It's a loooonnnngg line, so I hope we get our "licks" in. :angry:

The guy at the beginning wants a "piece of the action" too.

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I took Victoria back to the hospital this morning, although she would dearly have loved to stay home.

Another good day saw Victoria walking with a Zimmer Frame. Bleeding has been a little heavy today, from her hip, but no great concern was shown.

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Wow! This is really great news! It was such an uplifting sight to see Victoria walking so soon and so well! Way to go girl! I am so happy for you in your recovery. Best wishes on your continued progress.

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Victoria continues to "walk" with her PPAM Aid. She so desperately wants to "run" before she can "walk".

She has developed quite serious withdrawal symptoms today from the Morphine. After speaking to the Chronic Pain Clinic Group Leader, it has been decided to slow down on her drug reduction. She has dropped from 600mg per day to 100mg per day in only two weeks. Her next scheduled reduction was to 50mg from today, but nothing else will happen for a couple of days.

She will almost certainly come to live with me when she first comes home from the hospital, and I have offered to spend a week or so with her in her own house after that if she wants me to. She has serious misgivings about returning to her own house for the time being. However, that will be at least 2 to 3 weeks away, so I have told her not to dwell on it for now, and just carry on as the strong, brave girl I know she is.

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Guest bearlover

She will do great.. You have taught her well, She is a real fighter. With the best cheerleader behind her. YOU :P

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Anne, please let Victoria know that we ALL want to "run" before we can "walk!" The recovery period was absolutely the most frustrating part of my own "journey"... you feel healthy, you have energy, you're not in pain... it's natural to want to charge back out there and DO THINGS. NOW.

The "walk' part is VERY important, however... unless you build a good, steady base in physical therapy, you'll find that it's hard to keep going as you might like. It's a lengthy process, and "cheating" on it only cheats yourself. So tell her -- again and again -- to "please be patient... you'll get there when it's time."

I know she doesn't think it now, but she'll soon be "back in the real world" and wondering why she was in such a hurry to get there! I'm sure she'll succeed though... sounds like she has enough determination for two or three people.

I'm glad to hear she'll be staying with you at first. That part was hard for me: I was discharged home, and I live alone. My sister came and stayed for a couple of days to help me 'settle in" and I had friends stopping by... but it was a big adjustment to go directly from the rehab facility to totally on my own!

I'm going to make my little "speech" again, Anne: This will be the time when you DO need to start "backing off," hard as that might be for you. During the time Vicki's staying with you, let her gradually take on more and more of her routine responsibilities. Allow her to learn that she CAN do this on her own. Be there for her emotionally when she gets frustrated... but let her regain her independence as quickly as she is able. You don't know what a fine gift that will be for her!

take care... cherylm

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Cute Dog! Gil, I love dogs...Is he or she yours?? :)

Bearlover

Yes, he is. We have four, two tawny as in the picture and two black. They are Briards( French sheep dogs) and yes we do show them.

Gil Davis

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Hi all.

cherylm, I really do take heed of your "lectures", and I know that I have to back off. But you must believe me when I tell you that Victoria only lets me do what she wants me to do.

For example, the OT's have provided a commode to stand right next to her bed for her to use at night. On Sunday morning, when I woke up, I found her in the bathroom. She refused to tell me how she got there, but promised that she wouldn't do anything dangerous. Now with only one leg, how could it not be dangerous to leave a bedroom, pass by an open stairwell, and move into a bathroom. And I promise that this is only one example of her independence.

However, you would be right if you were to say "like mother, like daughter", as I too have a very stubborn streak, particularly after hospitalization etc..

I must also thank all you other good friends for you uplifting "tellings off", love, and prayers. This has become my support centre for everything, good and bad.

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Guest bearlover

I know in your heart you will know when to let go or back off. Your being a mom and people never out grow the need of a mother... :)

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Hi everyone.

Well, it's 3 weeks today since Victoria had her RAKA, and things are really begining to happen now.

She will be cast on Friday of this week, and provided nothing changes she can come home that afternoon. We will have just over a week of daily visits to the physio, and then take the 100 mile round trip to collect her leg from Addenbrooke's in Cambridge.

Apparently she is getting a very high tech hydraulic knee in her first leg, and that is unusual. Therefore she will need specialist advice that only Cambridge can give her.

She has had a better day in her battle with withdrawal from the Morphine, but insists she wants to continue on the path already set.

So, all in all, another good day. I expect she will join you all herself next week.

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Cool! Very anxious to chat with her!! Good News :)

Whats Up!!! :D

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Very good news, Anne... I'm sure Vicki is anxious to take "the next step!"

Thanks for sharing the "bathroom story," BTW... it DOES sound like she's a real fighter. I know the feeling, too... I "had' to resort to a commode at times during my recovery... but any time I could, I managed to get myself to the bathroom! It's worth whatever it takes in time and energy for what you get back in the way of self-esteem.

take care... cherylm

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Anne/Victoria

She made it! That's a BIG thing. Let her do what she knows she can do. There may be set-back or two, but it's obvious that Vicky is a real fighter. She will find her limits, if any. Don't set them for her.

When she feels like it, we are all anxious to hear from her.

Gil Davis

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