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why reTred. Ive been walking this road a while.  I'm processing a lot of life changes and realized I wasn't talking. I'm an introvert who can turn it on when it's not about 'me' and not up to be flamed with comments of 'get over it' move on and all the well meaning (in some cases) from an all to self focused society.  I'm a Certified Peer Mentor for Limb Loss Survivors and their loved ones and work in the medical field of orthopedics. I don't identify myself by what is missing so I use the term amputee selectively. (save your flaming posts if you dont get it dont attack me)  I am a limb loss survivor and I say that because of what I went through. I was hit head on by a drunk driver on the wrong side of the freeway in 1988, two NDEs and a bucket full of surgeries later the foot was removed in 2004. I dont identify by what is missing because I worked so hard to recover.  I have been feeling isolated because of my ability to push through and make it 'look easy'.  Just these few sentences and signing on is a hopeful step forward. a very truncated 2 cents of meh. I am alive I am not invisible and I need help as much as I help others.  Remember this, the nearest helping hand is at the end of your arm/foot/words  Reach out with what ever means you have and connect.  this is ME, reaching out  Ellen in US


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Hi Ellen.

Welcome to the Heather group. This use to be a very active site, but since the Amputee Coalition also has a site like this it has been very quiet here, so please don't feel slighted or rejected if you do not get many replies. 

I can relate to what you are saying. I too do not Present as to what I have lost--I am a right below knee amp from about 10 years ago--hit by a woman who did not look where she was turning. I went through 3 years of multiple surgeries to fix my badly broken ankle until I said enough is enough and got it amputated. It was the very best solution and I had about 9 years of doing what I wanted to do until my left hip had to be replaced. I have had multiple issues with that leg--I say my right leg (amp) is my good leg! I too have made it appear relatively easy to people around me and that has not given me the support I really need. People have been great, But I too feel very alone. If it weren't for my Labrador I don't think I would have done as well. She is sadly aging and I don't know what I would do without her/. Realizing this I have gotten a now 4 month old Labrador puppy. It is a wild ride, but she will be a great dog after puppy-hood!

Feel free to contact me if you are feeling low or ....

Peace, Beth Marie

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